Are you a champion?

Are you a champion? 

Are you winning? 

Have you found success? 

You’ll notice that I did not specify at what, or where… 

There are key principles and behaviors that lead to success. 

They apply to all high achievers.  

This is why we believe that creating success in one area of our lives  

Improves ALL areas of our lives. 

I know that most people will tell you that you can’t have it all. 

That’s an excuse based on fear of failure. 

You can have everything you want. 

Within realistic expectations.  

Don’t be limited by your beliefs 

But accept real limitations.  

Decide what you truly want. 

Determine what success means to you. 

Be fierce and be efficient. 

Be focused and be centered. 

Be strong and be flexible. 

Be honest and be kind. 

We will explore more over time. 

First, I have an assignment for you. 

What do you want most? 

What is your perfect day? 

Angry, raw, red center

What is you angry, raw, red, center? 

What is inside you? 

Driving you. 

We all have one. 

It’s a hunger. 

Sometimes hard to put our finger on it. 

But I know you have one. 

There are many ways to bring it out and to use it. 

Sometimes it is not what you think. 

Once you find it, you may deny it. 

Sometimes it is not what you want to admit to yourself. 

Once you find it, you may hide it. 

Sometimes it is not what you will share with others.  

But it is still there. 

Once you figure it out, you can use it. 

Use it to accomplish more.  

Use it to focus yourself. 

Use it to give you energy. 

Once you find it, use it like the warp core of your starship. 

It is a powerful force that must be managed. 

It is probably not something that you listen to directly. 

Or you will degenerate into chaos. 

I know what mine is. 

I have told very few people. 

Your ARRC is a very intimate thing. 

Mine is simpler than you might think. 

But it drives me to do more and be more. 

In the gym. 

At home. 

At “work.” 

Out in the world. 

What is yours? 

It does not have to be a noble cause. 

But you can use it to power noble pursuits.  

The sooner we know ourselves. 

The sooner we can make a change in ourselves and the world. 

What is your Angry, Raw, Red, Center? 

Go Get Your Results

We talk a lot about goals.  

Goals are awesome. 

They help give us direction when we are lost. 

They remind us why we do what we do. 

They serve as a guidepost while we navigate the boulder field. 

They serve as a beacon when we are treading water. 

But that is all they do. 

Goals just sit there. 

Calling you. 

Sometimes taunting you. 

They have no real power. 

They are not going to reel you in. 

You still need to do the work. 

Formulate a goal. 

Remember your goal. 

Don’t dwell on your goal. 

Some people spend too much time thinking about and dreaming about their goals. 

Sitting around, visualizing what life will be like when they get there. 

Remembering all the things that got in their way in the past. 

Convinced they have a nice clear shot now. 

Because look – it’s right there in front of me … 

Goals can be hypnotic.  

We love to dwell on them and think about them. 

It makes us feel good to imagine how great our life will be when we get there. 

They can be a seductive mistress. 

But while we are dwelling. 

Life passed us by. 

Another day without progress. 

Another week. 

Another year. 

It is time to make progress! 

Your actions NOW will lead to your RESULTS. 

Don’t think about it anymore. 

Don’t talk about it anymore. 

Take action. 

Any action. 

3,2,1, GO! 

I want to look good naked

Picture of a Michelangelo statue 

“I want to lose 20 pounds” 

“I want to look good naked” 

“I want to be stronger” 

“I want more energy to keep up with my kids” 

“I want to be able to go for hikes without getting winded” 

“I want to feel better” 

“I want to move better” 

These are all great reasons to come to the gym. 

These are easy, measurable goals.  

What we don’t realize going into it, is that they are not actually the biggest benefits we get for our lives. 

“I became a better Father and Husband” 

“I made friends who truly know me, respect me, and challenge me” 

“I went to work with a clearer mind and accomplished more in one hour than entire day, then got promoted” 

“I discovered that I am capable of far more than I ever imagined, nothing can stop me” 

“With each year, I just get better – not older” 

“I am Happy” 

“I am Whole” 

We don’t set out to reach these targets.  

We can’t set these as Goals. 

In many ways they are secondary effects.  

But they are the real end game. 

Do you want to look good naked? 

Yep – we can do that. 

But don’t be surprised when you get so much more out of it too. 

Driven; With balance.

Driven; With balance. 

That’s it.  

That’s how I do it. 

People have asked me how I am so successful, and it really is that simple. 

Do you feel what I feel? 

Deep inside of you, is there a fire burning? 

At your core. 

Look inward. 

Find your goals and hopes and dreams. 

They are screaming to get out! 

Did you find it? 

Like the core of the earth.  

A molten, churning, tumultuous, fire that stirs you. 

Can you feel it? 

Does it make your heart race just thinking about it? 

Is that deep, burning, raw energy within you trying to get out? 

Yeah – me too. 

I learned how to tap into it,  

To use it without letting it consume me. 

I found a balance of work and life. 

Love and passion. 

Pain and Pleasure 

Driving and enjoying.  

Busting ass and sitting back. 

Sometimes my fire is a demon.  

Sometimes it is a poet. 

Every time I tap into it – life gets exciting. 

Do you have a fire inside? 

Do you want help using it to get what you want? 

Reach out and we’ll help. 

What are you waiting for?

What are you waiting for? 

You have not started yet. 

You are waiting for something. 

What is it? 

… 

That thing, the thing you just thought. 

It’s not really what you are waiting for. 

It is a secondary rational that you have given yourself. 

Let’s dig a little deeper. 

… 

What are you waiting for? 

… 

What is stopping you from having the life you want 

Right now? 

… 

It’s ok, I know you are afraid. 

We have all been there. 

Change is scary. 

Change is the unknown. 

Change is exciting. 

Change is beautiful. 

… 

Are you really going to be able to do it this time? 

Maybe you failed the last time. 

And the time before that? 

What makes this time different? 

Everything! 

You are a new person now. 

You are going to join a group of people who are motivated 

They will hold you accountable. 

And you will hold them accountable. 

You will see the joy in helping others succeed while succeeding yourself. 

You will have a team of people helping you reach your goals. 

You can’t fail this time. 

We won’t let you. 

… 

Now, what are you waiting for? 

MA IV.2

“Let no act be done without purpose, nor otherwise than according to the perfect principles of art.” -Marcus Aurelius  

Far too often we drift from task to task through our day. 

Laying down at night wondering where the time went. 

As our precious life slips through our fingers. 

This is the time to wake up from the unconscious drift.

Time to stop sleepwalking through the day.

Make each action and each conversation matter.

Live an intentional life.

The Universal Language – Pain

Pain relief sign

Pain is important.
It helps our body communicate with us.
It is temporary.
But sometimes it lingers.
It can be loud.
It can be quiet.
Pain is a language, not a message.
Listen to the message.

Sometimes when we don’t know a language.
Everything sounds the same.
Take the time to learn the language.
The vocabulary and the grammar.
Then slow down and listen.

The message may not be what you think.
When pain speaks to you.
It may be time to stop what you are doing.
It may be time to seek outside assistance.
It may be time to run.
Or it may be time to stay and fight.

Most people react poorly to the message from pain.
It becomes Fight or Flight.
Do you strike out, or do you run away?
Listen to the message of the pain.
The pain may be telling you that you found a new barrier.
A barrier that can be broken down.

Don’t just push through the pain.

Do not just run away from it either.
Open a dialog.
Listen.
Respond.
Act.
This is how we move around or through the pain.
Then get to what we want.

Goals

I went through a period in my life where I did not believe in goals. 

I felt that they left people wishing for something, but never acting. 

I understand better now that this is not a failing of goals. 

It is a failing of the individual. 

If we spend too much time living in the future. 

Dwelling on the goal. 

Wishing and waiting for that “better life” 

Then we don’t put enough focus and energy into actions necessary to reach the goal. 

Build a clear vision of the goal. 

Contrive a plan to get there. 

Structure your life around core principles that guide your daily decisions.  

Then live in the now. 

Apply your energy today. 

Be in the moment. 

The future does not exist. 

Until you build it in this moment.  

Do you have a goal?  

Life is going to happen. 

The difference between winners and losers is who has the discipline to stay the course. 

Your past has developed your principles.  

Those principles drive your actions in the now. 

Those actions now allow you to react and navigate the real world. 

Navigation is what we do in the present moment to find a path to the goal. 

Everything revolves around what you do right here, right now. 

Make a mistake?  

Course correct.  

Don’t look back and dwell – or you will go further off track. 

A series of those little mistake are all filtered out by time. 

As long as you make corrections when they are identified. 

We have to look up and check in on the goal from time to time. 

But we can’t obsess over it.  

If we only watch the horizon chasing the goal 

we will get hung up on the near obstacles.  

Believe in the goal, and know that it will change as you get closer. 

Learn from the past and then leave it behind. 

Discipline in the present. 

Character

Character is the ability to get one’s self to do the difficult things that produce the desired results. In other words, I believe that for the most part, achieving success—whatever that is for you—is mostly a matter of personal choice and that, initially, making the right choices can be difficult. However, because of the law of nature that pushing your boundaries will make you stronger, which will lead to improved results that will motivate you, the more you operate in your “stretch zone,” the more you adapt and the less character it takes to operate 

So, if you don’t let up on yourself, i.e., if you operate with the same level of “pain,” you will naturally evolve at an accelerating pace. Because I believe this, I believe that whether or not I achieve my goals is a test of what I am made of. It is a game that I play, but this game is for real. In the next part I explain how I go about playing it. 

“Character is the ability to get one’s self to do the difficult things that produce the desired results” -Ray Dalio 

We often say that something challenging will “Build Character.” 

Then people roll their eyes. 

What we don’t acknowledge often enough is the feedback loop. 

All things in life have a feedback loop.  

These loops allow continued, accelerated growth. 

They require us to apply energy to keep the loop connected.  

Sometimes there is a chain reaction where that energy comes from within. 

More often than not, the energy must be explicitly applied. 

Applying that energy is hard.  

Applying that energy requires dedication and drive. 

Applying energy requires making a choice, the right choice. 

This is how we reach our goals.  

We choose to do the hard thing.  

The thing that builds character.  

The thing that took character.  

Here is the beauty. 

Making that choice the first time is easy.  

It only takes a little character. 

We are excited and ambitious in the beginning. 

Dedication and Consistency with the application of Character makes us stronger. 

Tomorrow, next week, next month, something will distract us. 

An easier choice is going to come up. 

We will want to take that choice. 

For a first order, instant satisfaction. 

Character will help us make the right choices.  

Character helps us push through.  

As it grows in strength it helps us more. 

Character is what we are made of. 

Achieving our goals is a test of what we are made of.  

We get to each keep growing. 

To achieve greater and greater goals.