What Men Want

“It’s absolutely unfair for women to say that guys only want one thing: sex. We also want food.”  

― Jarod Kintz 

Men are simple creatures with complex desires.  

We desire a lot, but if we have these two bases covered, we can pretty much tolerate anything. 

Vegetarians vs. Paleo

I wanted to share this article and comment a bit: 

< http://ieet.org/index.php/IEET/more/pallensen20140218  >

I am sometimes overly judgmental of the vegetarian lifestyle and want to go on record that this article helped me focus on what we have in common. I have far too often seen vegetarian’s eating nothing but pasta and breads with very little actual vegetables. I find that I eat far more vegetables than the vegetarians that I meet and so I get concerned about their health.  

My only objections to the article are the same old links to the same cherry-picked research on how meat is bad for you. I am not going to get into a battle here, I don’t do other peoples research for them, and no one reading this is doing to swing their opinion one way or another based on links that I post. It is not worth my time, go do your own research. 

The critical aspect I want to point out is that we can distill the discussion down to the rest of our diets. If I ignore their grains, and they ignore my meats, then I think we can focus on the relative merits of each other’s diets with a more clear understanding.  

Outside of those two things, are they avoiding sugar and processed foods? Are they supporting sustainable and healthy farming practices for their produce? Are they avoiding preservatives, additives, and other toxins? These are the things that are really going to make a difference in a human’s health and longevity. These are things that we have in common. 

Let us share the love and pass the broccoli.  

I am not so different than you

I am not so different than you 

I was fat in college. 

I worked 60 hours a week and also carried a full engineering degree course load. 

I got married to the love of my life and she thought she had to feed me.  

We ate fried food and drank Kool-Aid because it was cheap. 

I travelled the state of Iowa for my job. I drank Mt. Dew by the quart, and fast food by the pound. 

I did not have a healthy relationship with food. 

If you saw me then, you would never say “You have a fast metabolism and can eat whatever you want.” 

Chocolate is still my weakness. 

I cannot eat one Oreo. If I eat an Oreo, I eat a package of Oreos. 

I am the master rationalizer. I know how bad they are, so I will eat all the Oreos to protect my family from the evils within. I love my wife and daughters so much, that I will sacrifice myself at the Oreo alter for them. 

I battle the same addiction to sugar that you do. I have just learned to frame it differently. 

Sugar is public enemy #1. Sometimes it gets the better of me. 

I use up far more will power than I should while trying to avoid bad food. 

Will power that I could apply to more productive endeavors.  

We all fight these battles.  

Next time you feel the desire to give in. 

Think about what you might feel like if you skip it, just this one time.  

Then maybe if you feel good, you will skip it another time too. 

You can do this. 

One step at a time. 

Why do you Believe?

Religion has always fascinated me. 

I study them and analyze them. 

I observe practitioners and preachers. 

I honestly want to understand what makes people believe. 

I have tried. 

Many times in my life I have called myself a Christian. 

Deep down I always doubted. 

What makes people believe what they believe? 

Why are they so convinced that they are right and everyone else is wrong? 

I want to give everyone the benefit of the doubt.  

I try to assume that all people are reasonable, rational, intelligent humans. 

I know that most of them are not, but I will always start them at 100% and take points away as they talk and act. 

Many times I have wanted to engage in a real philosophical, religious, discussion with people. 

I have never found one willing to truly discuss with me without falling back on defensive “bible-thumping” when exposed to my questions. 

If you are firm in your convictions, and know how to intelligently articulate them, I offer you half of a good bottle of red wine.  

Come sit down with me and help me understand. 

When I ask you questions, I am not asking you to change, I just want to understand your point of view. 

Don’t assume that you can change me either.  

Let’s come together to discuss our view of the world with an understanding that our views do not have to be validated by another’s. We may just broaden them or solidify them for ourselves, and that also has value. 

Are you strong enough in your convictions to have them questioned?  

Shoot me an email – I have a bottle of wine with our names on it. 

Obsession with Humanoid Robots

This NASA project rubbed me the wrong way: 

< http://spectrum.ieee.org/automaton/robotics/military-robots/nasa-jsc-unveils-valkyrie-drc-robot  >

Why on earth, figuratively, would anyone build a humanoid robot for extraterrestrial activities? 

We make robots humanoid to appease humans or make the robot more capable of navigating human-centric environments. I think we can all agree that space, or other planets, are not human-centric. If you are going to argue with me on this one, then just stop reading right now and go back to fantasizing about sending your own meat bag to mars. 

The other reason would to make people identify more with the robots so that they are willing to throw billions of tax dollars at space exploration. These people do not understand that the same functions and features would be available in a robot for 1/100 the price and probability for failure than these humanoid robots. 

Don’t get me wrong. I want my household robotic maid to look like Megan Fox, but when I am funding a robotic space exploration robot, I want it to be the most efficient engineering marvel for navigating the target environment. I could not give two shits if it looks humanoid. 

Let’s see some research focused in the right areas, and not blatantly following their own agendas for “cool projects” on the back of specialized funding 

Please don’t diet

Please, don’t ever diet again, it Is not going to work. 

I tend to be a very positive person, and I hate it when people say you can’t do something. 

This is one of the cases where it is true.  

You can’t “diet” and maintain a healthy lifestyle. 

As usual, I am not going to do your research for you. It has been proven again and again. 

Change your lifestyle. 

Change how you look at food. 

Change your attitude. 

Challenge your assumptions. 

Challenge your upbringing. 

But don’t diet.  

Diets are temporary.  

Diets are Band-Aids on broken bones. 

Diets distract you from the real problem. 

If you have read any of my previous posts and are still reading then you are open minded and self-analytical. 

Think about your own food hang-ups.  

Why do you want to change? 

It is not until you answer that question, and the answer is important enough to you, that you will really change in the long term. 

Don’t diet, change to be better. 

Why do the open

Why did I sign up for the Crossfit Open? 

Because I am a Crossfitter. 

I struggled more with this question than I thought I would. Every answer I wrote turned into a “Why do I CrossFit?” answer instead of relating to the Open itself. 

When I was 15 years old I came home from a 10k road race and my dad asked me if I won. I told him no, and he looked disappointed and asked me why I even bother racing then. I was enraged. In that moment I stood up to my father for the first time.  I told him that I do it to improve. To test myself. To be better than the person I was last week. He did not say a word. Just grinned, nodded, and went back to reading his newspaper. 

The Open will show you how you rank compared to everyone else in the world who signed up. Thousands upon thousands of them. You will look and compare, and then you will realize that is not why you are doing it. 

We started CrossFit three years ago, shortly before the 2011 Open. Everyone encouraged us to sign up for the Open, but we didn’t think we were ready yet after one month of CrossFit.  

We watched from the sidelines while everyone at our gym competed, and we learned what CrossFit was about.  

We witnessed the community getting closer together. We witnessed people doing things they thought impossible. We saw the look in their eyes and the energy radiating from their soul when they finished.  

We saw athletes revitalized.  

We saw new passion born. 

We saw every single person get at least one rep on every WOD.  

Each one of those people got one more rep than we did. 

We were ready, we knew the movements, we probably could have even beaten a few people. We just did not understand what the Open was. Don’t let ignorance limit you too.  

The Open will test you.  

And it will teach you about yourself. 

The Open will bring you closer to your gym family.  

Closer to your coaches and your friends. 

The Open is your chance to measure yourself. 

Against others, and against the version of you who did the Open last year. 

Are you Fitter, Faster, and Stronger than last year? 

If you don’t sign up this year, next year how will you look back? 

The Open is a perfect recurring reference point.  

What are you afraid of? 

Why are you standing on the sidelines watching? 

Don’t just stand there watching life pass you by. 

The Open is more than another workout. It is a celebration of every person’s achievements. What have you achieved? What are you going to achieve in the coming year before the next Open?  

Jump in. 

Do the WODs. 

Then get in someone’s face and cheer them on. 

They did not let you put down the bar, and you are not going to let them. 

The Open is everything that makes CrossFit great, all rolled into a series of weekly WODs that feel more like a party. No way in hell I am missing that. 

Do two things for me: 

  1. Sign up, so I can cheer you on. 
  2. If I get far enough into a WOD with muscle-ups, make sure all the pretty girls are watching – I always get more muscle-ups that way. 

Privacy

Does surveillance really impose on our privacy? What is it that I lose by having data gathered about me? Do the benefits outweigh the downsides in the long term? 

I have asked this question of many people and have yet to find anyone who can articulate their fears in a way that is rational and reasonable when challenged with the positive effects that outweighs the negative. 

By gathering health information on everyone, people fear that their health insurance rates will go up. Health insurance costs are driven by the costs of health care. The cost of health care is driven by excessive testing; misdiagnosis; failure to seek treatment before problems become critical and costly; and legal fees. These all come from lack of information about the patient and disease.  

Once we are gathering copious amounts of data on people, we will be able to properly research and diagnose these diseases. Imagine a world where every human being feeds into statistical analysis for medical research. This kind of data mining will open the medical research field up in ways that can’t be achieved by todays methods. 

How many health problems could be prevented if people would see their doctor earlier, or monitor their heath for early warning signs. People like to live in denial, they are afraid to face the truth about their lifestyle and how it is affecting their health. They make subconscious decisions that shorten their lives because they fear their mortality. We need monitoring so that we can have a “check engine” light serving our bodies. This will allow our biological mechanic to fix a problem before it becomes a catastrophic failure.  

Be honest with yourself, are you trying to hide your health information from the government, insurance companies, and your employer, or are you trying to hide it from yourself? 

Envy and Jealousy

Envy and Jealousy are useless in our world so they must be controlled. 

Envy is fear of missing out. 

Jealousy is fear of losing what you have. 

These two concepts are often confused because they are complex reactions to the real emotion of fear. They are not emotions in and of themselves. They are an interpretation of our fear and often used to generalize because we are afraid of facing those fears head on. 

If we consider ourselves an enlightened society, we need to rid ourselves of the self-defeating behaviors caused by these two pseudo-emotions. They will both tear you down, waste your energy, and destroy your chances at thriving in your life. 

Let’s start with the easier of the two: Envy. When we want something that someone else has, we are envious of them. We need to ask ourselves why we really care what another person has. They most likely did not steal that “thing” from you. Them having it rarely means that you can not also have it too. There are very few truly unique items and experiences in the world. We envy someone primarily because they have something that we fear we can not have. We are afraid that we will miss out on some experience that they have attained, or will attain. Our society is becoming less and less a scarcity based economy. Do not envy someone for something they have. If it is truly a priority for you, then you can attain the same objectives. 

Next, the more complex: Jealousy. When we fear that we will lose something that is important to us, we feel jealous. The most common type of jealousy is related to a loved one. When we feel a threat that we will lose a loved one to someone else, then we feel jealous. That fear of loss comes from a more deep seated insecurity that we are not good enough to maintain the relationship in the presence of competition. This is what makes jealousy a complex situation and not an emotion on it’s own. Don’t try to address the jealousy face on. Even worse, don’t just avoid the situation that causes the jealousy. To do so is just another way of hiding your head in the sand. Why do you fear losing this person? Is there an underlying problem in your relationship that needs to get fixed? Are you insecure that you are not good enough to be in the relationship in the first place? These are all real problems and they need to be addressed to maintain a healthy relationship. Fix the source of the problem and you will be amazed at how liberating and stress free your life is when you feel truly secure and comfortable in your relationships.  

Negative and Positive

My snatch is terrible. My snatch is getting better. 

My snatch problem: I am slow getting under the bar, and I have terrible shoulder mobility.  

These are fixable, and I am working on them, but I have not made very much progress. It’s time to stop talking about what is wrong, and time to start talking about what I am doing to fix it. 

I am making a mental shift.  

When people ask why I am doing a certain drill. My response is not that it is “Because I am slow” it will be “This is making me faster under the bar.” 

When you ask me why I am inflicting pain on myself with a lacrosse ball; my response will not be “Because I have terrible shoulder mobility,” it will be “This is how I get my arms straight overhead.” 

I have long since removed these kind of negative statements everywhere else in my life. Why would I be using them at the gym? This is a place that is such a large part of my life, and a place where I have a huge support group helping me get better. 

My request to my gym family: If you catch me making those two negative statements – punch me straight in the gut – that’ll teach me.